“The knowledge to master our weaknesses to make them strengths is important, but the wisdom to master the power born out of our strengths is even more important.” -DeBorah Bellony

Everything is Relative
When it comes to male and female relationships, we are more alike than we like to think. It’s just a matter of whether we are “inside or outside” of each other, connected or unconnected-literally. For example, when a man is not “inside” a woman, he is not really that interested in a lot of communication and her need to express her feelings about every little thing. However, when he is “inside” of her, he wants to know exactly how she is feeling and communication becomes the holy grail.

Another example, when a man is “outside” of a woman, she detests his innate desire to “spread his seed.” However, say the woman wants to get pregnant. Then she becomes really interested in how plentiful, how far and how vast his seed can spread so that the best sperm is selected for her baby.

The End of Dualism
As we come to an end to duality consciousness, the traditional gender, race and generational roles we have played are changing. This is not so much because we have strayed away from the “original plan,” as much as it is because Life/ The Universe/ G.O.D. uses the sum total of all of our experiences so we can all become the master or spiritually evolved “grown-ups” we were are all destined to be-in our own time. Because we are all aspects of the Creator experiencing Itself through Its creation, there essentially isn’t any failure. I guess it’s similar to the biblical story of the prodigal son coming home. Yet, when we don’t see life from this perspective we are like the jealous, elder son that doesn’t see why his father son would celebrate the coming home of his wayward brother.

In Chapter 1 of my e-book, Afraid of Our Own Shadow, I state that as the universe and world evolves, as well as individuals within it, there are consequences and timelines for holding certain conclusions (judgments) that eventually meet up with a certain fate. It doesn’t matter how seemingly “good or bad” these conclusions are, when we see it as only being one way or another, our persons will eventually have the opportunity to experience its opposite as well.

“The most powerfully potent thing on the planet is our perception.” -DeBorah Bellony

As humanity evolves to its next playing field of existence, a new perception of the interconnectedness of all things must be adopted to be able to hold the higher frequencies. In the blog post, “J” is for Jack and January is for Initiation,  I state that all numbers after 10 enter a level of mastery or what I call androgyny, where they are both odd and even or male and female. In other words, there is an aspect of balance or non dualism inherent in them. For example, a 2 is a 2 and that means it’s an even number. No matter how you slice it, it’s polarized. However, 11 is an odd number, but when you add it together 1+1=2, it becomes and even number.

Two States and Two Types
There are two states of being and two types of beings on the planet. The two states are awake and asleep, and the two beings are initiated and uninitiated. All four are relative in certain areas and to certain degrees, so everyone can have a little of all four, depending on the area of life we are talking about.

The initiated being can be likened unto a King or Queen in that area. They can also be likened unto the perfect, most caring father or mother that provides and/or nurtures their child to become the true adults they will someday be, with the least amount of drama. They never force their sexual or aspirational desires on that child because of their own integrity, impeccability, emotional maturity and self discipline.

In the area of personal, intimate relationships, every Queen is initiated through loving every uninitiated man “as if” he were his son, and every King is initiated through loving every uninitiated woman “as if” she were his daughter. What do I mean by this?

There are no heavy sexual, financial or emotional projections or expectations. There aren’t any “not my kin” issues that would prevent him or her from displaying a “perfect” love in that connection. In other words, there is an instinctual, deeply rooted connection and vested interest in seeing this individual thrive, irregardless of ones own personal desires.

Be A Star!
There are two things we like to go around saying. One is that we are Kings or Queens, and the other is that we are Stars. So now that you have my definition of a King and Queen, let me give you my definition of a star. The true definition of a star is self-generated energy. A sun is a star and doesn’t need anything from the planets that revolve around it. Instead, it generates energy, shining a beautiful life-force to all it supports.

So let me ask, are you a King or a Queen? Are you a star? To what degree and how far? May we all embody our Auset and Ausar!