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Jun232014

Pitfall #4 to Conscious Co-Creation (Part 3)

Today’s inspiration comes from Part 3 of Chapter 9 of my e-book, Afraid Of Our Own Shadow: A Manifesto and Guide to Conscious Co-Creation. Enjoy!

Chapter 9: Pitfall #4 to Conscious Co-Creation (Part 3)

I witnessed one seemingly caring conscious brother, after realizing there would be no throne for him to sit upon in this line of work, become not only bitter, but an opportunist. I mean, even to the point of semi pimping women and hustling that corporate job because as he put it, “Hell, I got bills to pay and all them ignorant pork eating brothers and sisters ain’t worth the hassle.”

I witnessed another conscious sister become spiteful. After just making good love and a good meal for her man, she returned home having forgotten something for work, only to find him in bed with another women. She became so hateful that she didn’t even want to hear anything, much less see anybody talking that conscious stuff!

I witnessed for miles and miles, many conscious brothers and sisters, after the novelty wore off of being in rebellion to their parents, have their house of consciousness flatten by the storm, since, in the first place, they were not build with the psychological foundation that is necessary to change a world paradigm. Having become parents themselves, I watched them all go back to the same religion, philosophies and diets that they talked so negatively about when it was fashionable and drove their parents crazy.

So, that was the first storm, you can say a category 2 for me. The second cycle of change that came around to awaken me was more like a category 5 and I wasn’t hardly as prepared for that one.

It took me awhile to realize it, but I was mad and suffered great heartbreak from my elders. Not my parents or the elders that I thought didn’t know better, but the elders that went around in the community professing to be all knowing and therefore, I thought knew better. No one ever told me, and it would years later before I realized that elders hid behind their broken hearts too, and criticizing the youth for all the problems, was the way they cried, much like anger was the way men cried, of which I’d also find out.

Yet, at the time, it was virtually inconceivable to me that my elders with knowledge or in authority positions would actually sell out and deliberately thwart the youth’s progress for money, a personal agenda, and more accurately (for what I know now), their own broken hearts. I guess you can call my person naïve, but around that age of 21, I had no immunity to the fact that elders that I held in high esteem could say one thing and do another and I became bitter.

Now This is VERY Important:

BECAUSE, I wasn’t aware of my broke heart, this would pave the way for a lot of what I drew to me, in regards to elders constantly letting me down. My mind computer had accepted this reality as the gospel truth and as a result kept churning out more of this faulty reality in my experiences to validate it. The sad part was that because my heart was broke and my person DIDN’T KNOW IT, I was powerless to do anything about it. Powerless from having my 90 percent heart power pierce through this veil of illusion to create another reality.

Yet, like my auntie used to say, “What don’t kill you, makes you stronger.” During this 19 year cycle of inwardly searching and seeming societal scorn, G.O.D and my Higher Self, were gently guiding and getting me ready for what would become my greatest gifts.

This period helped me to gain perspective on why my so-called conscious elders said what they said and did what they did. It gave me the needed motivation to use my gifts to dig deeper, beyond what was commonly accepted knowledge, theory, and perspective, to create my own theory, The Bellony Theory, of which I’ll be sharing in my forthcoming book, It’s All G.O.D: A Conscious Creator’s Guide to Healing the Effects of White Supremecy.

So, with that said, let’s move into my great resource:

Proverbs Chapter 4 v23 says, “Keep thy heart with all diligence; for out of it are the issues of life.” I heard this verse mentioned when I was listening to an interview with Dr. Alex Lloyd, founder of The Healing Codes. He quoted this verse to bring home how science is only now coming to realize how essentially true this ancient proverb is. Dr. Lloyd pointed out that healing lies neither in alternative nor allopathic medicine, and that essentially there is no long term healing without healing our cellular memories and especially the ones that we don’t even know we have!

The resource I want to share with you was founded by another good doctor, Dr. Bradley Nelson, founder of The Body Code. I mention Dr. Nelson here because he developed a fascinating system that uses the power of our bodies to tap into the collective subconscious to locate what he calls trapped emotions AND the power of magnets used along what’s called the governing channel in acupuncture to clear them. These two powerful, yet super simple techniques combined have been meeting with GREAT success. I share this resource because I know just how important it is for us to clear all these barriers and blockages that we don’t even consciously know we have around our hearts in order to step into the 90 percent heart space of potential and power. So that was Pitfall #4 (I told you it was a biggie!). Next, we’ll be covering Step #6.

Jun162014

Pitfall #4 to Conscious Co-Creation (Part 2)

DeBorahManifest Monday Comment

Today’s inspiration comes from Part 2 of Chapter 9 of my e-book, Afraid Of Our Own Shadow: A Manifesto and Guide to Conscious Co-Creation. Enjoy!

Chapter 9: Pitfall #4 to Conscious Co-Creation (Part 2)

Before I end, I want to share a powerful personal story, as well as a powerful resource. So, let’s begin with my story:

In 1986 in Orange County, California, I started a Black Heritage Club at my high school where there was less than 2 percent African-Americans. I was around 15years old and on fire because I had recently been gifted with the knowledge of my rich ancestral heritage and contribution to the Americas, as well as the world. And, I just want to say, you have to know this was a GREAT gift for my person’s self-esteem at that age, being that I grew up in a very racist community and school system where Black history began with slavery and then ended up with a brief mention of Martin Luther King, Jr. I received this gift from my brother who was attending Cal State Long Beach and was taking a class with Dr. Maulana Karenga, the founder of the African-American holiday, Kwanzaa. I was around 12 or 13 at this time, and I noticed that my brother was walking taller and always preaching to the family, about one thing or the other. Some of my family thought he was crazy, but I was curious. In my inductive childhood reasoning, I noticed that whatever was causing this change in him had to do with the books that he was always reading and carrying around, so I decided that I would read them for myself to find out what was going on.

Well, that opened my mind to a whole new world, and I was never the same again. Learning about my heritage changed my C minus average to a B plus and transformed my person from an insecure “nobody” to one of the most well known, actively involved students on campus. However, I was a little overzealous in my quest to “uplift my people.”

I used to go around campus with this heavy African-American almanac that I stole from the public library, quoting all the things that Black people had invented from the filament in the light bulb to the blood transfusion. I also used to hunt down all my classmates to make sure they’d come to our weekly club meetings. Looking back, yes, I wanted my classmates to feel the same sense of pride that wasn’t afforded us growing up Black in the OC, yet there was another, subtle underlined need that said, “If my classmates could experience the same pride I’m now feeling, in return they will love ME and be thankful to ME for providing this knowledge” Mistake #1! For as we already covered, the subconscious desire was based on my need of getting energy from another rather than Godsource via the act of self love of my inner family.

It was no wonder that the more I chased after my classmates, the more they ran away. Understanding this universal principle, they had to run, even if they didn’t know why! Something about my energy was needy, desperate. I was going on 17 when I had my first aha! moment about this. Now that I think back on it, this revelation must have come out of my true desire to understand why was it my efforts were being thwarted, when all I consciously wanted to do was good.

I’ll never forget the moment when the understanding hit me like a blow to the chest. I was on my way to the school cafeteria and a voice from within said, “If you are to do this work, if you are to share this message, it can’t be for anything else but the sheer love of it, not for the gratitude or appreciation of your classmates.” From that point on, my whole perspective changed and I could take my personal desires out of the mix a little more. I say “a little more,” because like I stated earlier, growth and actualization is an on-going process that happens… in cycles and cycles.

Yet, it was great because it gave me a little more understanding, so that by the time I went off to the historically Black University, North Carolina Central and founded a women’s service organization called Alkebu-lan Sisters, I was better prepared for what unfolded. I was able to watch with just a little more insight, empathy, and understanding, when other of my colleagues started learning knowledge of self. Depending on where their initial heartbreak happened, or depending on where their inner family wasn’t being nurtured, there would lie the psychosis, ready to rear its ugly head. For example, if it was a heartbreak based on ageism from their parents, then getting involved in this knowledge was fulfilling in that it was used to wage war against their parents in angry rebellion to all the restrictions and lies they were fed growing up.

If it was an inner family issue and the person had lack of self-worth, acknowledgment and appreciation issues, for men, it usually showed up as an overcompensation of the inner warrior, who used this information to be better, bigger and more knowledgeable than the next man. For women, it usually showed up as the self importance she felt from being so and so’s lady or the energy she received from being praised as the supportive, self sacrificing sistah.

Now let me say here, it’s not that anything my colleagues were doing was actually right or wrong. No action is inherently right or wrong in and of itself. Yet it is why we are doing what we are doing, our subconscious intentions that determines the results.

So, I sat back and watched all of these subtle subconscious motivations play out in others and myself as if I was doing a study. For those astrologers out there, I guess I don’t have Pluto in Virgo and a Scorpio Ascendant both at 29 degrees for nothing.

Anyway, what was my conclusion? Well, if I was to liken the cycles of change, the cosmic bill paying of the universe, to that of a hurricane, then what I witnessed after the storm were a few houses left standing. Although, my house survived that cycle of change because of the preparation I had in high school, there was another cyclical storm on the horizon that I’ll talk about in a minute that I was way less prepared for. Before, I do let me tell you about the devastation from this cycle…

Jun92014

Pitfall #4 to Conscious Co-Creation (Part 1)

DeBorahManifest Monday Comment

Today’s inspiration comes from Chapter 9 of my e-book, Afraid Of Our Own Shadow: A Manifesto and Guide to Conscious Co-Creation. Enjoy!

Chapter 9: Pitfall #4 to Conscious Co-Creation

In this chapter, we’ll be covering the “biggie,” the fourth pitfall to Becoming a Conscious Co-Creator.

Pitfall #4

Attempting to Co-Create Without Healing Our Broken Hearts

In recent times, many studies and research has been done to prove what was considered common knowledge in ancient times, and that is the importance of living with a light and open heart.

The ancient Egyptians or Kemetians believed that when you died, you traveled to the Hall of the Dead, where your heart was weighed against the feather of Maat, the goddess of Justice. If your heart was lighter than the feather, you lived forever, but if it wasn’t you were devoured by the demon Ammit.

According to Gregg Braden, a popular author bridging the gap between ancient wisdom and technology, the heart is about a 100 times stronger electrically, and up to 5000 times stronger magnetically, than the brain, making it the strongest generator of both electrical and magnetic fields in the body.

Master Lin, founder of Spring Forest Qigong, once said in an interview that 90 percent of our power comes from our heart and only 10 percent comes from our mind. The mind is important in that it helps to direct the heart energy; however, until we have the courage to stay in our heart space, none of that power is available to us.

There are three main societal wounds that I want to mention here that can prevent conscious co-creation, because they serve as the platform or playground where most all initial heart breaks occur. These wounds are racism, sexism, and ageism. For those who are not familiar, ageism is discrimination based on one’s age and it can be viewed as a generational occurrence between elders and the youth, but of course that’s not the only way. It’s my contention that the more we as a collective heal these societal wounds, the less heart break would occur on the planet.

Since our minds are good at tricking us, we usually make rationalization for our actions, never admitting when we’ve hardened or closed our hearts.

Here’s a great indicator or first sign to determine when your heart might be broken:

When you start to talk negatively about a principle, a person or a people, that you once held in high enough regard to truly live your life for.

I learned this jewel from my mom when I was home from college one year and was feeling quite worn out and let down buy my elders and people who I thought should know better in the “conscious” community. There I was, slouched in my chair, clearly in a defeatist position, going on and on saying things like, “People don’t want to change, all they want to do is talk that mess!”

My mom took one look at me and my energy and said, “You know you have to really watch yourself, when the things you once used to care about, you are now talking negatively about.” Those words hit hard and rang true for me, even though at the time, I acted like they didn’t and blew them off.

Essentially, we can only do any action and think any thought in life in one of two places, and that is- inside our heart space or outside our heart space. When we think and act from the heart, we are able to see beyond the veil of illusion and create more good in our lives, in cycles and cycles. When we don’t, we fail prey to our unknown subconscious desires and manipulation from what Eckhart Tolle calls the collective pain body.

It would take me 19 years to understand that the greatest gift G.O.D granted me was to thwart my long-term career, intimate relationship, and financial success, so that I could first understand and then begin healing all the ways my heart had been broken over the years. If I were to have had long term financial success in my career and in my intimate relationships first without dealing with my broken heart, it would have been based on a false perception and wrong intention that no matter how vile or virtuous it may have looked like on the outside, would only be taking me further away for my true heart desires.

I can see this so clearly NOW. But at the time, I subconsciously thought my G.O.D and my Guides had forsaken me, adding another heartbreak to the mix. So essentially, for about a 19 year cycle, I have been going through smaller cycles of self evaluation, learning and perceptional growth that has helped me to heal and to appreciate where I am today.

May52014

Pitfall #3 to Conscious Co-Creation

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Today’s inspiration comes from Chapter 8 of my e-book, Afraid Of Our Own Shadow: A Manifesto and Guide to Conscious Co-Creation. Enjoy!

Chapter 8: Pitfall #3 to Conscious Co-Creation

In this chapter, we’ll be covering the third pitfall to Becoming a Conscious Co-Creator

Pitfall #3

Attempting to Co-Create Without Understanding Your Life Cycles

Okay, here is the part in the book where I’d like to do two things. One is clear the bad rap that astrology has been getting these days in this era of “we can create our own reality” and two is to make a shameless plug for my services. So let’s cover number one.

As a collective, we’ve reached a time in our evolution where many scientific breakthroughs have occurred enabling us to better understand the inner working of our minds, our emotions, our DNA and essentially the world. For some, it’s an empowering experience when they realize they can “rewrite the script” that was given to them from their parents, their society, and now even from their DNA.

For a lot of people, life on earth has been experienced as hell and they just want to change it. Subconsciously and for some consciously, they don’t understand how a loving G.O.D would make them suffer through what they’ve been through as part of a Divine Plan and as a backlash, they’ve come to rely more on science for the answers and the code to rewrite this miserable script. They say, “To hell with astrology and all its predetermined BS. That doesn’t apply to me now because I can rewrite my script.” Or they say, “A new day is dawning, God consciousness is within me, and all of that stuff is obsolete or doesn’t apply.”

Yet, I’m here to say that every single action we take in our lives, every experience we’ve had has meaning and is fulfilling a purpose and it’s the purpose and meaning WE give it.

In the movie “Matrix 2,” Neo asks the oracle, “If you already know, how can I make a choice.” She replies, “Because you didn’t come here to make the choice, you’ve already made it. You’re here to try to understand why you made it.”

When we as a collective lost our connection to Godsource, we also lost the connection and awareness between our Higher Self and Lower Self and our conscious mind and our subconscious mind. Understanding this, it becomes evident, that before wanting to go changing any script, we should focus on healing this disconnection. By focusing on understanding what the Creator and our Higher Self were up to before we incarnated here on earth, we unify this disconnection and thus become enlightened. Enlightened to what, you may ask? Enlightened to your whole Self, the unity of our conscious and subconscious mind, which, to me, is the true definition of Self-Love.

In doing this, we will find that up to that point of enlightenment, there was little of nothing that needed changing-only our perception and perspective about it.

Now some of you may be saying, “That’s nice, but I’m getting my ass kicked from my mate.” Or, “I just lost my job and I have nine mouths to feed.” Or, “I didn’t choose to get molested and raped by someone who says they love me. What do you say to this?”

Well first, I say the words from a B.T. Express song, “Do it. Do it. Do it to your satisfied, whatever it is.” And this could be to agree or disagree, to be angry, a victim, or seek revenge, to search for answers and make amends or ultimately to meet your end. It’s all good, because there will eventually come a time when you’ll be satisfied and move on to the next thing. And in my opinion, this is the best and only way we can ever do it.

Second I say, if circumstances have brought you here where you are reading my words, then there is a part of you, somewhere, that is ready to pay a bill that’s due.

So again, before we go rewriting the default programs that govern our existence, we need to understand and appreciate the great perfection that is already at the core of everything, including ourselves AND our experiences. An unknown author once said, “The journey is the dream. All that goes into the journey makes the dream worthwhile.” G.O.D, getting the chance to experience Itself through It’s creation, is the greatest and grandest Heroes or Shero’s Journey of them all.

Now for number two. Here is where I make a shameless plug for my services.

But first, here’s another analogy. Let’s say you don’t know for sure whether your light bill or your phone bill is due this week and you pay the wrong one and your lights get turned off. That can be an inconvenience right?

Well, the reason why understanding you life cycles to make better choices is so important is because it gives you a type of guideline of when certain cosmic bills AND paychecks are due. Or more accurately, can be due, based on your attitude, your perspective, and your actions. Because one man’s bill can be seen as another man’s paycheck and one woman’s paycheck can be seen as another woman’s bill.

Before I say anything else, I just want to share with you my approach to astrology and the Destiny Card system. First of all, you are NOT your card or sign. You are a divine reflection of the Creator and inherently capable of creating a life that includes ANYTHING you desire to co-create. Yet, just as the doctor makes the uniform and not the uniform the doctor, so too the person makes the card or sign and not the card or sign the person. Understanding why you chose a certain life path based on your birthdate brings clarity so that you can capitalize on strengths, minimize weaknesses and tap into the power of who you truly are.

Also, just as a farmer’s knowledge is useless if she doesn’t till the soil, plant the seed, and nurture it, so too is the knowledge gained from astrological consultations useless if one doesn’t apply it in life.

In the Destiny Cards system (an ancient form of astrology and numerology preserved in the ordinary deck of playing cards), the year begins on your birthday and is broken down into seven 52 day periods.

Each one of these seven periods is ruled by a planet. For instance, Mercury, Venus, Mars, Jupiter, etc. These periods are the same for every year and are specific to your date of birth. For example, my 52 day Jupiter period starts on May 16th of every year. What I know about Jupiter is that it brings my greatest gifts, so I usually begin business ventures at this time. There is a lot more to this fascinating system, but I won’t go any further here. To learn more, you can go to my website Positive Options so that was Pitfall # 3. Next, we’ll be covering the biggie-Pitfall #4

Apr282014

Pitfall #2 to Conscious Co-Creation

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Today’s inspiration comes from Chapter 7 of my e-book, Afraid Of Our Own Shadow: A Manifesto and Guide to Conscious Co-Creation. Enjoy!

Chapter 7: Pitfall #2 to Conscious Co-Creation

In this chapter, we’ll be covering the second pitfall to Becoming a Conscious Co-Creator.

Pitfall #2

Attempting to Co-Create Without Releasing Old Programming

We all want to have positivity in our lives. We want to be positive, think and act positive and create positive things. Yet, there is only one way to make it to the next positive and promising day and that is by going through the night. This natural phenomena of day and night, serves as a simple analogy, here in life to show us that this is and on-going process. This process can lead to more and more good in our lives, in cycles and cycles IF we just allow it to.

Now we’ve already covered some techniques to release old programming in a previous chapter. And we’ve also covered how important it is to let this process run its own course, so I won’t say much more here except for one thing. Beware of the Quick Fix! Here’s another analogy to bring this point home:

Imagine this. Let’s say you are one of those people who now understands the importance of self sufficiency and developing a relationship with Mother Earth. So you made it a priority to buy some land and now you want to grow food so you can eat from your own garden. So there you are one day, working in the yard, learning all this stuff for the first time and along comes Jack or should I say Jackal? Anyway, that’s not important. So he sees you working in the yard and he steps to you and says, “Why are you out here working in the hot sun?” You reply, “Because I want to create a garden I can eat from.” He replies, “Oh, is that it? You want to eat. Oh man, I know a way where you can be eating in no time. You don’t have to worry about digging and planting and breaking your back, then waiting and worrying about the harvest season.” You look up at him and say, “Really?”, curious to know what he has in mind. Then he says, “Yeah, they just opened up a farmer’s market 5 minutes from here. They sell everything and it’s all organic. All you have to do is go and buy what you want. They even accept visa and food stamps!”

Now, if you were really serious about your newly found convictions of establishing a relationship with the Earth and being self sufficient, wouldn’t you look at him sideways? Yet, if you weren’t really serious, you might say, “Weeeell, he’s got a point.”

So, I share this story to say, there are no quick fixes. What I’m sharing with you in this book can be likened to me showing up in your yard that day and saying, “Oh, so you are growing food too! Here, let me share with you what I learned from my almanac about when is the best time to plant that seed.” Or, “I know where you can order the best quality seeds and new garden tools. I also belong to this local first time farmers group that can share lots of tips with you.” Like that. So, again, there are no quick fixes. Okay, that was Pitfall #2. Next, we’ll be covering Pitfall #3.

Mar172014

Pitfall #1 to Conscious Co-Creation

DeBorahManifest Monday Comment

Today’s inspiration comes from Chapter 6 of my e-book, Afraid Of Our Own Shadow: A Manifesto and Guide to Conscious Co-Creation. Enjoy!

Chapter 6: Pitfall #1 to Conscious Co-Creation

In this chapter, we’ll be covering the first pitfall to Becoming a Conscious Co-Creator.

Pitfall #1

Attempting to Co-Create Without Knowing Who We Are

Now we already covered how important it is to know Who and What GOD is and our intrinsic worth as an aspect of Divinity. Believe me when I say that this is crucial to our ultimate success. If you don’t understand your worth, and more importantly, if you don’t really believe and truly know just what you are an expression of, like you know your name or when you have to go to the bathroom, then you can NEVER be a conscious co- creator for long (and I’ll explain what I mean by for long in a minute).

Imagine this. Say you want to plant a mango tree but you don’t know what the seeds look like and someone sold you some apple seeds and told you they were mango seeds. Your person might be shocked and even disappointed when harvest time came and you see apples instead of mangoes growing. Now, was the problem nature’s fault that you didn’t get mangos? Did the process of planting and harvesting let you down? No! The issue was you didn’t know the value or worth or essence of the seed that you bought.

Let’s get back to my comment about not being able to be a conscious co-creator for long without knowing your Intrinsic Divinity.

Since the time that we as a collective lost our connection to Godsource, we have all been a work in progress. This progress and process happens in cycles and cycles. Essentially and ironically, it’s the reason why we are actually even here. So all the things that we’ve ever done to improve ourselves and our position in the world. All the rituals and chants, all the vegan food, nutritional supplements and nanogold, all the meditation and brain entrainment and hypnosis, all the cleansing baths and spiritual transmissions from spiritual healers, all of these things are essential and help us along on our journey, especially if we feel called to them for whatever reason.

Yet, if we think these things give us power, rather than the power being within, they may work for awhile because they are powerful practices, but eventually we have to run into our own limiting beliefs about Who GOD is and Who we are in relationship to this Source, in cycles and cycles. It’s what we signed up for when we incarnated here on Earth.

There’s a line I love in the movie Divine Secrets of the Ya Ya Sisterhood when an old lady gives the main character this advice, “Sooner or later, everybody’s bill comes due.” I’ll talk more about this cyclical “paying of dues” in another pitfall later. Okay, that was Pitfall #1. Next, we’ll be covering Pitfall #2

Mar32014

Conscious Co-Creation: Step 5

DeBorahManifest Monday Comment

Today’s inspiration comes from Chapter 5 of my e-book, Afraid Of Our Own Shadow: A Manifesto and Guide to Conscious Co-Creation. Enjoy!

Chapter 5: Conscious Co-Creation: Step 5
In this chapter, I’ll be sharing the fifth step to Becoming a Conscious Co-Creator and as always, I’ll have an activity for you at the end.

Step #5
Stay Present With Presence, Releasing the Need for Approval and the Need to Impress

Before I get started on Step 5, we’ll do another quick review:
Step 1: Know Who and What GOD Is.
Step 2: Know your Intrinsic Worth as an Aspect of Divinity
Step 3: Align Your Person, Your Power, and Your Purpose With the Creator of All That Is
Step 4: Allow Old Charge to Come Up Without Resistance

When we truly realize that we are an aspect of Divinity experiencing Itself through Its creation, life takes on a totally different tone. There are many reason why in the old paradigm, this knowledge of Who and What God Is and our relationship to Divinity, has been kept hidden from the masses by the societal structures and authorities of the day.

Now, we are birthing a NEW paradigm which is based on revisiting and uncovering the ancient teachings and making them applicable for our current times. With this new consciousness that is flooding the planet comes an exciting and new responsibility. In a lot of ways, it can be seen as our greatest freedom encapsulated in our greatest challenge.

Khalil Gibran, author of the famous book The Prophet is quoted for saying, “Your pain is the breaking of the shell that encloses your understanding.” So, what is this great challenge that I speak of? In a nutshell, it’s this:

Seeking Energy From Another Person or Thing Rather Than Godsource

Because we have spent so much time being disconnected to our God source, life on earth has become a place where we struggle (consciously or unconsciously) to gain our energy from another person or thing. Most of us were never even taught that we actually CAN, tap into our inner power as our main source of energy.

Here’s a good analogy:
Did you know that in 1896, Henry Ford built his first automobile to run on pure ethanol, stating it was a cleaner, cheaper, better fuel for automobiles than gasoline? Yet, it was John D. Rockefeller, owner of Standard Oil, who successfully funded lobbyist to push Congress to pass the Prohibition laws that made alcohol illegal and thus began his monopoly of fueling gasoline run cars. If this seems hard to believe, do your own research and you’ll see.

Yet, I only share this to bring home the point that there are and always has been, other positive options for getting our energy, rather than how we were raised to get it from another person or thing. And what do I actually mean by getting energy from another person or thing? Let me break it down.

In the old paradigm, we tell ourselves, “If I can just get someone to love me and that I can truly love, I’ll be alright.” Or, “If I can just get the approval of my peers or impress my boss enough, then I’ll have emotional and financial security.” In the old paradigm, every action is taken with the need for approval or the need to impress. And why do we do this? For one simple reason and that is to gain the energy of another. Because think of it, if we didn’t need the energy of others, would we even bother with the song and dance? No!

In the new paradigm, the goal is to realize that energy comes from connecting to Godsource via the act of loving ourselves. When we embrace our inner family- the inner child, the inner warrior, the inner nurturer, the inner sage and so forth, THEN we are in a position to tap into our Godsource and truly be intimate with another.

Don’t get me wrong. Intimacy with another is a great thing, but we truly can’t be intimate without vulnerability, and vulnerability is the gift we give to another only when we truly love ourselves. The main reason we are afraid to be vulnerable is because if we are and the person doesn’t reciprocate, then our persons feel completely and utterly demolished- that is if we don’t love ourselves enough. Because if we did love ourselves, although it might hurt when love isn’t reciprocated, we still would have a steady stream of love and energy coming from within.

So, how does this all relate to Step 5? In order to explain this fully, I’d like to share another story with you from my personal life:

Back in 2002, my friend Kevin Jackson put on a major conference in Atlanta called The Gathering of Masters of which I helped to coordinate. There were over 15 powerful speakers lined up from, Dick Gregory, Sobonfu Some, Dr. Charles Finch, Dr. Delbert Blair, Hakim Bey, Dr. Phil Valentine, and Dr. Jewel Poolkrum, just to name a few. With all the big names also came some big egos and needless to say, as the coordinator, with only one volunteer, I was stressed out between meeting the needs of the speakers, the vendors, the attendants, and keeping my sanity.

The first day, there wasn’t even time enough for me to even have a lunch break. By the end of the day, I had reached a breaking point and I decided to go completely within as a coping mechanism. I found myself standing in a trance during the last lecture, in a meditation that lasted nearly four hours, long after everybody had left the hall and stopped trying to get me to respond to anything. I lost complete track of time. I ended up going deep into my heart space where it was told to me, “Be present with presence. Release the need for approval and the need to impress.” A deep sense of presence fell over me in that moment and I entered the space of my heart. I began to use the whole conference as my homeopathic pill. I was able to see, through being present, all the ways my actions were done with the need to get the approval of others and my need to impress, AND I began to see how it was all connected to the areas of my life where my inner family wasn’t nurtured.

I began to see just how deep a gap there was within me that wasn’t being fulfilled. I also began to really see the motivations behind some of my actions. Even my actions to serve, while altruistic, also had an edge of wanting to be important and associated with these “masters,” but at the same time being afraid to shine my light. This type of honesty was a hard pill to take, yet in a way it was liberating to see how much the need for approval and the need to impress were ruling my life.

So, when we stay present in the moment, in our bodies, with presence and the intention of seeing how many of our actions are based on us getting energy from another rather than relying on Source- it’s a liberating experience.

As a matter of fact, if you really want to know my truth, I believe if we were to just do this and no other practices, eventually it would free us to become the immortals we were destined to be at this time! Okay, so with that said, here is your activity for this step.

Activity for Step 5:

Task #1
For 5 minutes when you wake up and for 5 minutes before going to bed, when you are eating, when you go to the bathroom, when you are waiting, when you are traveling and whenever else it is possible, just center into your body and feel yourself there in the present moment. Focus on feeling different parts of your body at random from your feet, all the way to your head with complete presence. This exercise helps you to build muscles so you’ll have a better chance of remembering to stay in your own energy field when you are talking to others, especially someone you consider “difficult” or “desirable.” Also, before opening your mouth to speak to anyone take a deep breath and inwardly thank the person for being there.

Task #2
Throughout the day, whenever you find yourself slipping out of the present moment and losing your presence, just say, “Out of all the things I have to do, all the things I love to do and all the things I was destined to do, nothing is more important than what I am doing right now.” Take a deep breath and focus inwardly in your body.

Task #3
I learned this practice from a technique called Access Consciousness, founded by Gary Douglas and I find it to be very useful. It’s based on the premise that most of the thoughts that come into our minds are not even ours. They are part of the collective consciousness and they only become “ours” when we decide to react or identify with them. So as the first line of defense AND healing for the collective, anytime a limiting or fearful thought comes up, ask yourself, “Whose thought is this?” If you get a sense that it isn’t originating from your person, then you say, “Return to sender with loving consciousness attached.” By returning it to the sender, with loving consciousness, you are not only strengthening yourself, but you are also helping to do your part in clearing the collective consciousness as well.

So that was Step #5. Next, we’ll be covering the four (4) pitfalls to Becoming a Conscious Co-Creator and the last pitfall is a biggie!

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